Who do I work with?
In coaching the progress is up to the client: the more you put in, the more you get out. Here are some criteria to help us decide if you and I are right to work together:
You want to take a hopeful and active approach to life.
You intend to work harder than me.
You are willing to be challenged with radical honesty: you seek truth and progress, over ego or comfort.
You are willing and able to connect with others not only intellectually but also at the level of the heart.
You genuinely want to let go of your fear and suffering, and create a happy and flourishing life.
And here's the big three:
You see the cause and solution of your problems as within you, not in others or the world.
You fully accept that I can only be a guide, and that you are 100% responsible for your outcomes.
You are willing to take radical ownership of your thoughts, choices, and how your life looks, and to see how far that ownership can take you in recreating everything.
Why see a coach?
Actors and athletes and business people have coaches, for they can't afford to be mediocre. Personal coaching is for people who can't afford to be mediocre either - not if they want to do what they love, nor if they want to create a life they love. Coaching is for people who are willing to invest the time, energy and money into creating a great life.
Why pay for a coach?
Because it works. And because doing it yourself hasn't worked. Or doesn't work as well. Coaching is for people who are prepared to do focus on the outcome: to do what is needed to make life really good. People who are willing to take the time, energy and money that they would have spent on distraction and consolation, and to invest in themselves. I spend five figures a year on coaching for myself, and my life has improved by leaps as a result. In fact I've come to view it as having a clear financial return too for I am much more productive, courageous, and flourishing in my work. But fundamentally it has led me to becoming much stronger and happier than I would ever have been otherwise.