Personal growth is the way of men. It's how you overcome adversity, move forward, and build. By getting better. Making yourself into the man you truly want to be. Creating the life you most want. I'm a counsellor with a masculine approach. I lead men through an intense process of personal transformation. Imagine you're there, stepping out into the world a year from now, having:
If you like the look of that, then let's make it happen.
Week after week we'll work away, until by the end of our time together you are a different man. We'll focus on whole change: your mind, emotions, actions, body, relationships, and place in the world.
In a previous career taught philosophy. So I combine psychology and philosophy. Because a man needs both reflection and action.
When you invest time and money with me you are investing in rebuilding your entire self. The benefits are multiple.
Okay, so who am I, and how do I actually help?
A close friend once exclaimed to me: "You are a master of remaking yourself!" I loved that moment, because he expressed one of my core passions and skills. I came from a tiny rural town, dropped-out of high-school to get away from an abusive step-father, and moved to Melbourne at 17 to make my own way, earning a living as a musician, entering a monastery, studying then teaching philosophy, joining a motorcycle club, then becoming qualified as a counsellor. That was all in my 20s. For the last decade I've been counselling, working at the grittier edge of men's lives.
I've talked suicidal men down from bridges. I've led shattered men through betrayal and divorce. And I've guided hundreds back from adversity to become stronger and better. Just as I have remade myself several times over, sometimes in the face of deep pain and loss, so it has become my passion, my study, and my profession to help other men do the same.
Before becoming a counsellor I taught philosophy at The University of Melbourne. I focused on ancient philosophy, with its insights for how we become strong and do well in a hard world, which have been tested over thousands of years. I became a counsellor because I wanted to combine that wisdom with psychological research, and I wanted to practically guide people in it. I am at heart a philosopher, which for me is about being a good man, and being good at being a man.
Many of your performance problems, whether with work or women, are personal problems in disguise. As a counsellor I help you overcome them. Counselling is about inward change. But there is a strong coaching dimension to what I do. I blend counselling with coaching because I act as a guide, who is educated widely and deeply, and can offer a structure and motivation and accountability. It makes a massive difference to have somebody working with you in this way.
I've been through this process of self-transformation and you can read my story here - the pictures tell a thousand words. I spent years transforming myself from a depressed, anxious young man, into somebody who is strong, confident, and successful with work, women, and life. I became a counsellor because I love this process of personal growth and I love seeing it in others. It's a joyful passion, and so I extended the journey to became a skilled guide to other men.
I'm not some detached psychologist or aloof therapist. I'm a respected counsellor among my peers, and I'm very well educated. But I'm originally a working class man, a member of a motorcycle club, a hunter, a lover of women, and a friend who has witnessed men's pain and confusion in this world. I give a damn. I value a world of strong, courageous, masterful men, who honour themselves, and whose generosity flows from that. A world of happy, robust men who are great to be around. Whose strengths creates joy and goodness. Masculine men. Whoever you are now, whatever you look like, however you feel, as a man this is your potential and calling. I know, because I had to take the same journey. And have helped many others do it.
Willpower doesn't work on its own. And the path forward is confusing, especially when you lack the wisdom of an older, experienced man. You need a tribe. You need brothers. You need a guide and mentor. I fill an important part of that that need (and I can help you find the rest). I function as a context that enables you to get clear, to find your way forward, and most of all, to actually take the steps, follow through to the end, and make your dreams a reality.
There is a respect, a bond between us, which is central to our work. It's not about the money, it's about integrity. And of course laughter and incorrectness. It means we are honest with each other. It means we focus harder and make things happen. It means you follow through on your word. I give a damn, and so I get excited about the success of the men I help. I use my skills and knowledge to my best, for them. I push them to push themselves, taking their life to the next level.
When you're ready to turn life around, contact me and we'll start making that happen. Life is short, the years flash by, and there is nothing worse than empty regrets - my service is for men who want to take a chance and really live. I see people face-to-face in Melbourne, and nationally over Skype.
-Matthew Bishop (MAppSocSci(Couns); BA (Hon); Dip. Prof. Couns.). Follow me on Instagram and Facebook: